Get in the habit of thinking everything through in advance, even ever so briefly, and stating the outcome you wish to achieve. If it’s a drive to work, what you want is for it to be safe and quick. If it’s an argument, you want a fast win-win resolution. Just state your intent and let go of all expectations. Try this for a week and see how your life improves.
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